YOU SAY TOMATO and I SAY SHUT-UP A Real Cut Up of a Couple's Marriage/Gurwitch vs Kahn

Annabelle Gurwitch is an actress, activist, author, TV personality, single mother, i.e., a regular Renaissance woman for the 21st C. She is the co-author (with her ex, Jeff Kahn) of "You Say Tomato and I Say Shut Up".  For those who don't recognize a Gershwin tune (shame on you), the title is a clever play on a song about the myriad ways love can go wrong.  Oh, let me count the ways...  or better, read about the fray in the troubled courtship and tumultuous marriage between Annabelle and Jeff.  Jeff is successful TV writer.  He received a Primetime Emmy for ("The Ben Stiller Show") 1993.  This memoir is told by the talented and successful duo, Annable and Jeff about when they met, fell in lust, parted, reunited, fell in love, got married, had a son and after more than a decade of marital banter, parted ways.  Annable and Jeff take us down memory lane from their first meeting at a party.  Jeff was immediately smitten upon seeing Annabelle frying-up latkahs in a LA kitchen for a holiday party.  Annabelle, a self-proclaimed flirt was married at the time to her first husband. Jeff was crushed when he learned this tidbit which wasn't shared by Annabelle. They do tell share intimate details of the same sequence of events in chronological order from their perspective.  Told candidly, with dollops of hilarity flavoring their antics; feelings of jealousy, animosity and mainly, an unflappable amorous attachment. At least that was the slant I eschewed from the dynamic two who seemed fated, dated, married and mated.  Of course their bickering evokes stress and resentment in their relationship.  The relationship is not embattled in direct combat. They're not directly engaged in an escalation of accusations.  Rather, as the reader one hears both sides separately and comparatively.  A lot of their complaints are relatable and oftentimes comical.  Their son was born with severe health issues requiring multiple surgeries. Their alliance was steadfast with one another in support of their son, Ezra (now a healthy teen),  And throughout the stress of their son's health, there was still a sense of humor that was ubiquitous and uplifting. What hope is there if two such like minded, dynamic people can't make it last till "death do us part".  Between the chapters are amusing anecdotal breaks wherein marriage facts are given.  These facts will make you wonder how any couple would ever chose to get married in the first place.  I say, pick up "You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up" and enjoy this rib-tickling, light hearted inside/out look at love and romance.  "I won't dance, don't ask me. And so what, you''re lovely.  But oh, what you do to me."  (J. Kern/O. Hammerstein)